While scrolling through my Instagram feed to distract myself,
I stumbled upon a poem. It goes:
That’s the worst thing
about love, isn’t it?
It can happen
Like a sudden flash
of lightning
Then leave
And leave every part
of you
Shocked
And changed
And more empty
Than you ever thought
you could be.
That’s exactly what you did to me. You came into my life. I
fell madly and deeply for you. You left. Now I’m broken.
I told you once that I don’t think L has a single ounce of
hate in her body for anyone. That’s how I feel about you. I want so badly to tell
you I hate you for doing this, because if I hate you then I can’t possibly love
you anymore. Maybe it would make it easier for me to heal and move on. To
forget all the memories we created. In the end though, I know deep down I could
never hate you.
You never once lied to me about your feelings – you were
always upfront about things. It’s not your fault or mine’s that we are at
different stages. I was ready to commit, and you weren’t. I thought that if I
was patient enough that I could wait for you to be ready. I never stopped to
think about how selfish that was of me and how much pressure that would put on
you. Even though I tried to be patient, my insecurities and uncertainty of our
future always seemed to be the source of our issues, and in the end, it was one
of the things that led to our end.
Even after you ended things I continued to behave selfishly.
I begged you to stay and reconsider things. To give us a chance. All I could
think was that if I change then you’ll stay. I could be the girl you needed me
to be. When you told me that we could meet up and talk, a large part of me knew
that there would be no changing your mind, but there was a tiny light of hope
that told me to fight for us. I should have listened to the larger half. You had
made up your mind and simply wanted to give me the closure I needed.
As always you let me say everything I felt and never once
tried to defend yourself even when I said things that must have been hard to
hear. A part of me wished that you had been rude or cold to me so that it would
make the breakup easier. But you weren’t. You picked me up and immediately
asked me how I was doing and if I had been sleeping well. You gently placed
your hand on my leg for a brief second to ease my nerves because you saw me
fidgeting. You held me in your arms and let me cry all over your jacket and
told me that I’m strong and I’ll heal. You told me that if I wanted to be angry
with you I can. You offered to buy me ice cream or boba because you knew I hadn’t
eaten yet. When you drove me home, I cried the entire way and you wiped my tears,
rubbed my back and told me “it’ll be okay” and to breathe. You were still the man
I fell in love with.
I know breaking up with someone is never easy, especially
when you have a bond and genuinely care about the other person. I have been
stuck in this mentality that because I was the one rejected, only I could be hurting.
I can see now that you’re hurting just as much as me. You’re acting strong for
the two of us, but I can see it hurts you too because I know you genuinely do
care about me. When you asked if we could be friends and in a moment of anger I
said, “I can’t,” I could hear the disappointment and sadness in your voice when you
responded. I explained to you that I do want to be friends, but I can’t right now,
and you understood me. That’s how I know that what we had was real. That you,
in your own way, do deeply care for me. It just isn’t the way I want and need.
You said you aren’t ending things to date other people, and
this is more for you to get back in-touch with yourself and your goals and
dreams. However, it hurts to even think about you meeting another girl. Holding
her hand. Cooking meals and washing dishes together. Cuddling on the couch
watching YouTube while you rub her feet because they’re cold. Taking sweet little
K for evening walks or to play at the dog park. All the little things we used
to do, you’ll be doing with her one day and that thought kills me inside.
Despite all this, I wasn’t lying when I said I want to be friends.
I want to see you achieve your dreams, advance in your career, and find love in
yourself and another. Just right now, as you said, I need to take the time to
heal.
The past few mornings I wake up praying, wishing, hoping
that when I open my eyes everything will have been a bad dream. That the past
few days were all just a horrible nightmare and that when I open my eyes it
will be New Year’s morning. You’ll be lying next to me fast asleep and little K
will be curled up at our feet. I’ll wake you up and tell you all about it and
you’ll hold me in your arms until I calm down while placing sweet little kisses
upon my head. That’s what I hope every morning. And every morning when I open
my eyes and I’m alone in my room, it hits me all over again and I’m crying. I
know that one day I’ll be able to wake up and not have those thoughts. Slowly
but surely, I’ll start to miss you less and less. I won’t crave your touch or
to hear you call my name or call me “babe.” I won’t count the hours since our last
exchange or savor the moments when you tell me you miss me. One day, I’ll wake
up and I’ll be okay. I don’t know when or how long until that is, but I know it
will happen.
You told me that I’m strong. That I’ll heal and find someone
who can give me what I’m looking for. You’ve never once lied to me and I know deep
down that what you say is true. I know I can’t be selfish and keep holding onto
you. If I truly love you, I have to let you go.
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