Coffee Talk: Loving You Loving Me

Everyone told me that I would be okay. You told me that I would be okay. I didn’t believe any of you, but you were all right. I am okay.

When everything was so fresh and raw, I didn’t see an end to the heartbreak. I couldn’t imagine dating other people or loving someone the way I loved you. The idea made me anxious and sad. You had become the person that I wanted to try things with. The one I want to go through life with. To grow with. That’s how I felt, and I believed I would always feel that way. I couldn’t imagine that someday soon those feelings and thoughts would stop.

That’s the funny thing about our emotions though isn’t it? How you can go from being shattered and broken to healed all in one day. At least, that’s how it happened for me. Not all at one once mind you, but gradually. It took me a while to heal and figure out how to go about my days without you. Once I got there though, it only took a single moment, a single thought, to realize that I really was okay.

Coffee Talk: Repairing the Heart

Moving on is never easy. Everyone always has a different “cure” for a broken heart. Here are all the things I’ve heard:

1.     Don’t shut the world out or stay locked away in your room

2.     Find ways to keep busy or occupied

3.     Block and unfollow him on all accounts

4.     Get rid of anything and everything that reminds you of him

5.     Don’t listen to love songs or sad songs

6.     Don’t do anything rash to change your appearance

7.     Indulge in your favorite snacks aka eat your feelings

8.     Cry if you need to

9.     Talk about it to someone

10.  “To get over him, get under a new one”

Coffee Talk: End of K

While scrolling through my Instagram feed to distract myself, I stumbled upon a poem. It goes:

That’s the worst thing about love, isn’t it?

It can happen

Like a sudden flash of lightning

Then leave

And leave every part of you

Shocked

And changed

And more empty

Than you ever thought you could be.

by AVA. (Instagram: @vav.ava)

That’s exactly what you did to me. You came into my life. I fell madly and deeply for you. You left. Now I’m broken.